I was thinking the other day the things that define a person’s path to recovery from an eating disorder. I was trying to figure out the things I think are essential for recovery. The first thing is not engaging in eating disordered behaviors. Obviously, this is a lot harder than it sounds but finding or creating an environment in which you are not able to engage in your eating disorder is crucial to recovery. Beyond that I was thinking about the role of love, kindness, and generosity in recovery. I have found in my years of treating people with eating disorders that they are the most loving, kind, and generous people I have met. They will make great sacrifices to help others. However, in times of need they are reluctant to reach out for the same help they so willingly give. What I have started doing with the people I am treating suffering from eating disorders is to have them identify times they have allowed others to be loving, kind or generous to them. This often is so hard for them to do but what I believe is essential to recovery. I am encouraging them to open their hearts to the love, kindness and generosity that exist in their lives but the eating disorder often causes them to over look. What are some example of people in your life being loving, kind and generous to you and is this something you can simply accept fully without judgment or self-condemnation?