When YOU become ED?
What I mean by this is when a loved one is so passionate about getting rid of ED that they become ED.
I have seen a few family situations where this has happened. The intention of the loved one is to help the sufferer get rid of ED, yet in trying to help they become over-controlling and even to the point of verbally abusive. This is just yet another way that the eating disorder destroys families and marriages.
The lines get crossed, the boundaries become blurry, and who is in charge is fuzzy.
I don't think it is necessary to go into great detail about how this happens...I believe it is out of love and the intention is to help. BUT, sometimes along the way something occurs to goof it all up! This is common in addictive relationships, which is why there are so many AL-ANON groups across the United States!
So - if you feel like this is you I encourage you to get some help. Go see a counselor, start reading books on boundaries, and I would even encourage you to attend an Al-Anon group! I don't know of any Al-Anon groups for families and friends of those struggling with Eating Disorders. :( I lead a support group for family and friends at my work...but I don't know how common this is. If you do know of a group like this...please let me know.
Here is a link to Al-Anon. I encourage you-loved one of someone struggling with an eating disorder-to reach out for help.
Happy Living!
Lee
