nothing "important" to say

I got kick out of myself today.

I  was giving myself a bad time for not having anything I thought was interesting to write to you guys about. Then I was trying harder and harder to think of something I thought was "good enough" to bother writing. And of course that made it even harder to think of anything.

Then I had to laugh because I would get all over someone's case for this kind of thought process! I even told someone the other day, when she complained she had "nothing to say," that it was totally fine to just hang out with me and be silent if that's what she felt like being.

And then, I decided I would walk the walk (you know, including being scrupulously honest and all that good stuff) and simply write. So there.

Just want to make sure you guys know that all of us humans, myself included, don't always have something specific to say all the time, don't have everything figured out all the time, don't know exactly what we're going to do the next minute... and that's ok. Totally normal in fact :) And nothing bad happens as a result; no one thinks I'm weird (well, more than usual at least :) there's no loss or punishment involved. It's all good.

Comments

[Pauses4paws]

Ahhh...A very comforting post! Thanks!

[Ann]

For sure :) Thanks for sharing!

[leanonme]

Thanks for sharing your experience. Sometimes when that happends to me i get that worried feeling but im not able to laugh it off. I worry that it means something bad about me. And like you said the more i try to find something to say the more difficult it is to find something to say. Yeeks. It also takes me into my head and away from my feelings or experience. Im always more desturbed and confuse when i get tangled in my head. So i guess the moral of my story is like you said to sit with the uncomfortable feels and not try to make something other than what is real ( at the moment) happen.

Thanks for this post, it makes me feel not so crazy.

[Super Egg]

i love it. i think it's important to say you have nothing important to say. i think in the moment you were saying, "just be."

[Sarah]

If you're looking for ideas for posting ;) ... I would love to have some advice on how to choose a therapist. I am moving to a new city and so losing my therapist of four years. :( It is so hard to tell who is a good 'fit' because I can't really talk about meaningful stuff to someone I've just met anyways.

[wendy]

Thanks for this post!!!! It is funny to hear you say you couldn't think of anything to write! Appreciate all the time you put into writing for our benefit. :)

[leanonme]

I guess you cant be Brilliant ALL the time ;) !!!!! That would be a bit extreem along the black and white continuum I would think.....

[runforjoy]

I found this post really comforting too! I don't always have to know what to say, and maybe it is okay to just "be" with my therapist too. I know you have talked about it before, but I still find it hard to believe that she would want to be in my presence. And yet the evidence seems to go against my old belief, so maybe, possibly, the old belief was wrong.