panel plans

Oh Paws, do you think you might be being just a tad bit black and white here? 

Does it seem like there are only two choices- totally predictable or totally non-predictable? How about if there can be points in between? That'd be helpful, right?

You're in luck! Your wish for a "panel plan" is possible. How cool is that?! Pick a soccer ball... any soccer ball. No matter what color/s they are, all soccer balls have that alternating panel pattern. Soccer balls have a predictable pattern of panels. This means that there are predictable patterns to the development of relationships. 

For instance, say you've progressed through the first 3 or 4 sets of panels- you've collected a significant amount of information by then- information that gives you a certain level of predictability in the relationship.

And the more panels the two of you traverse, the stronger the level of predictability becomes.

Is it perfect? Is it absolutely iron-clad foolproof? Well, no... it's not perfect. But it's a reasonable way to do life and to do relationships, and it gives us the best avenue for predictability and stability in our relationships. It's as good as it gets in life- and turns out it's a pretty darn good way to do relationships.

Comments

[Super Egg]

thanks 4 the plan stan!

[pauses4paws]

Hmmm. Grey....middle ground....okay, I gotcha. Hasn't been my strong suit and the suggestion that I'm thinking "black and white" is helpful. I wouldn't have thought of that at all without you pointing to it. I can completely see how there is SOME predictability from your description...guess I always want all the answers before I delve in (to just about anything). I know....I know. Not the way the world works..I spy a few opportunities for more growth from this exchange. Oh goodie... :)