You know that saying about something being more than the sum of it's parts?
When you think about your relationships, do you think about them as you and the other person as individuals, or do you think about them as what is created between you and the other person?
I find that many of the people I work with view their relationships as only the two individuals, as opposed to what the two individuals create together by the nature of their connection.
Relationships aren't just the two people (or person-dog or person-cat or person-whatever it happens to be that we're thinking of), it's also the space between the two people- the sum total (and more) of all the parts of the two people and what that creates.
This is why every relationship in the world is unique. This is why it's possible to have such a variety of relationships. And this is why strong, developed relationships aren't easily abandoned or destroyed. Because the space created between each two of us (also holds true of relationships where there are more than two people) is unique and special and like nothing else in the world.
A client asked me the other day if I liked all my clients the in the same way. I said that each relationship was unique, and that the connection depended on not just me or the client, but on the space we created together. She was stunned by that idea. It had never occurred to her that relationship was a shared phenomenon; something both parties contributed to and became invested in and cherished and cultivated.
So, that's the thought of the day, and maybe even the Bumper Sticker of The Week: Relationship is the space we create between us.