Why She Feels Fat by Johanna Marie McShane

wow

So, this tolerance thing has stirred up some interesting thoughts and feelings for you guys.

tolerance

Yep, Courtney, we're definitely using definition #1.

this week's Bumper Sticker...

Our Bumper Sticker of The Week: Tolerance

expectations

Expectations are funny things.

gifts

Sometimes therapists get gifts. 

people aren't random

Wendy, I'm glad you commented about your realization that your negative self-image served a purpose for you as a child.

feeding the negative self-image

Why would we feel compelled to do things that reinforce horrible and inaccurate beliefs about ourselves?

are we really comparing?

You're right, PTC, that you're going to get an argument from me! But you knew that!

comparison and it's evil twin

People are always telling me they "compare" themselves to others. And I'm always telling them what they're doing isn't really comparing, it's comparing's evil twin. 

what do we really need?

When you ask yourself the "what do I need to feel minimally safe" question from yesterday, I'm guessing you'll come up instantly with several hundred things you're sure you need to feel safe.