Recovered.® by Jenni Schaefer

Smashing the Box: Letting people into our lives

Why is it so hard to let others into our lives? I mean “truly in” and not keeping people outside of that glass box that life has built around us. (I do realize that some of our boxes are not made of glass but rather titanium enforced steel!) What if we all smashed that box and let friends, family members, and significant others stand right beside us--- shoulder to shoulder?

She Blames Herself: The healing power of music

I have long since known about the healing power of music. Even before I intellectually knew that music was beneficial emotionally, physically, and spiritually, I could feel that music actually heals. As a kid, if I felt sad about something (from school work to boys!), a song always helped.

Because music was also important in my recovery from anorexia/bulimia, I recently released a CD of songs that I hope will touch people's lives. I am grateful to have already received an overwhelmingly positive response to the third song on the album in regard to dealing with the traumatic wounds of abuse. So, I want to share She Blames Herself (co-written by Teresa Boaz, Sandy Ramos, and me) with you here.

We wrote this song to let victims of abuse know: it's not your fault. And healing is possible.

All the best,

Jenni

SHE BLAMES HERSELF - (Click button below to listen.)

Blue-eyed girl, 15-years-old
Hides a secret inside her soul
She keeps re-living it, how could he do what he did
A friend of the family they’ve know for years
Now when she sees him, she’s filled with fear
What can she do when she knows it’s her word against his?

CHORUS
She blames herself, she blames it all
On how she dressed the way she walked
Drowning in shame and so much guilt
Who can she trust, who can she tell
When she’s too scared to even ask for help
It was all his fault and still
She blames herself

He stole her innocence and most of her youth                                                                                    Now that she’s older she knows the truth
What he did was criminal and she needs to let go of the pain
Now when she meets a young woman who’s lived through the same ordeal
She remembers the anger & how bad it feels
One look in those eyes and she knows that girl’s goin’ insane (cause)

CHORUS
She blames herself, she blames it all
On what she wore the way she walked
Drowning in shame consumed with guilt
Who can she trust, who can she tell
When she’s too scared to even ask for help
It was all his fault and still
She blames herself

It was all his fault and still
She blames herself

Written by Jenni Schaefer, Teresa Boaz, and Sandy Ramos. © 2010 Hello Me Music (BMI)/Striper Music (BMI)/Lawyer’s Wife Music (BMI)/Cauley Music Group (BMI). All Rights Reserved. International Copyright Secured. Used by Permission.

 

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