In the last few weeks my husband has pointed out to me a number of Carolyn Hax columns. In the Feb 22nd piece I so appreciated the clear understanding she had of the damage that can be done by "innocent" comments. A mother asked how she could best counter jokingly delivered "criticisms" to her one-year old daughter made by her mother-in-law. Evidently the Grandma, while patting her granddaughter's belly exclaims, "That's disgusting! Look at that round belly! How horrible!"