So why, in Beating Ana, do I write that "'Fat' is not a feeling, and it is not good enough for the new me—the me who craves the fullness of life the way a bird craves bigger, stronger wings to fly ever higher"?
Truth be told, Ed doesn't have very high standards.
He settles pretty easily.
He doesn't really want to fly.
Ed would turn down falling in love, having a child, graduating from college, getting his dream job, having fun with friends, and throwing great dinner parties for loved ones......all to stay home and "feel fat".
Woohoo! You party animal, Ed!
But is that really good enough for you? For me?
When we start to name, own, and even welcome our own feelings, our wings start to grow. The more feelings we can name, own, and welcome, the stronger our wings get.
Before long we are flying about, way up in the sky where boring ol' Ed can barely even see us, let alone reach us!
Where do you want your new, strong wings to take you?
What do you crave from the fullness of life that Ed will never want for himself - or allow you to have as long as you abdicate your right to feel to him?
And what are you going to do about it - now, today?